How to Perform Incredible Manual Stimulation on a Woman

Becoming a better lover is not an easy task, it requires time and effort and above all communication.  Nobody is born with the knowledge to please every woman, although sometimes it sure seems that some guys were.

There are many different aspects to providing pleasure to a woman and in this article I will be discussing just one of those, manual stimulation, or fingering.

There are a wide variety of ways that you can 'man handle' your woman so that she'll be begging for more.  But you always need to keep in mind that for every woman there is a different preference in how she likes to be touched and what really gets her going.

An important thing to remember is that the brain truly is the body's largest sex organ, so in order to 'prep' her vagina you're first going to have to make her mentally ready.  This is due to the fact that if she isn't producing any lubricant of her own then any serious activity down there could be quite uncomfortable, even downright painful.  So before you start right in on the pleasing make sure she's ready, take your time, communicate, there's no hurry.

There's one more thing I would like to bring up before I share a couple great techniques with you on how to finger a girl.  As I already mentioned, all women have different preferences for what they enjoy sexually.  Some women can have a full orgasm solely from g-spot stimulation, with no clitoral attention at all.  Other women can't reach orgasm without at least some clitoral stimulation. And as unfortunate as it is, some women can't reach orgasm at all, no matter the stimulation and time.  But to improve her chances make sure you keep the lines of communication open and pay attention to her reaction.

The techniques I will go over here are just guidelines, remember to change them as necessary for the situation and the woman you're with.

1) The Ol' Dependable
Even reached around a woman and felt between her legs with your fingers?  It's the classic way to finger a woman, but just because it's a classic doesn't mean it's not going to get the job done, because it definitely will.
After having properly aroused the largest sex organ in her body and she's noticeably moist you take your index and middle fingers and rub them in a circular motion around her clit.  She needs to know it's ok to communicate, ask her how it feels or if she likes what you're doing to her. She may want you to use those fingers and go inside her for a while before returning to her clit.
Always be sure to keep a rhythm going, whether fast or slow, keeping it steady is key to really getting her off.

2) The Twister
This technique is similar to a standard in and out movement with your straight finger(s), but with a twist. To begin you should place yourself between her legs while she lies down on her back or leans back in a seated position.
To start you place your fingers just inside the lips of her vagina with your palm facing downwards, then as you push your fingers in deeper you twist your hand so that at maximum penetration your palm is facing upwards. On retrieval you again twist so your palm is facing downwards at minimum penetration.
One thing to keep in mind is try to hold pressure on the upper wall of the vagina, this is where the g-spot is located and this type of fingering technique is generally aimed at g-spot stimulation.

3) Take it up a Notch With Sex Toys
As great as the human fingers are, sometimes it's nice to have a little extra variety, variety is the spice of life, you know.
One option is called a finger, or finger vibrator, and rightly so, this little toy is essentially a small extension to your own digits.  However it does have something your fingers lack; nubs and ticklers.  You just place these over your own fingers and go on with business as usual.
A different option is using a vibrator such as a bullet.  You may know these as common sex toys that women use for masturbation, however they can be just as fun, if not more so, when used by a partner.  You can even take the bullets up a level by adding a finger sex toy onto them!

My Final Word

There's a lot of ways to pleasure your partner and a lot of ways for him/her to pleasure you! Don't let yourself get caught in a rut, don't limit yourself, don't stop communicating, don't stop practicing and it's you that'll be 'that guy' who's a god in bed.

And don't forget lubrication, it's very important to have, especially if the woman you are with doesn't produce enough of her own.