The Rabbit Vibrator: An Essential Sex Toy

The rabbit vibrator, or as it's sometimes referred to, the dual action vibrator is a relatively new addition to the sex toy line up.  In fact it hasn't been around for much for than a decade or so.  The rabbit vibrator has two distinct parts, the shaft that resembles a phallus and a clitoral stimulator that juts out from the base.  The rabbit name comes from the fact that the clitoral section often resembles two rabbit ears.

Rabbit vibrators are very powerful sex toys for women, not only can the clitoral vibrations can get very strong on some models but the shaft, or at least a portion of it usually rotates.  The rotating portion of the shaft is usually larger than the rest of is often covered in bumps or some other stimulating extra which is designed specifically for extra g-spot pressure and stimulation.

Due to this extra stimulation there are some women who find dual action vibrators to be too strong.  Rabbit vibrators are definitely not for women who have extra sensitive clitorises.

Types of rabbit vibrators:

There is a wide variety of dual action vibrators out there, from the very basic and inexpensive to the incredibly advance, costing well over $100.

The simple and cheap versions, which are recommended for those who've never tried a rabbit vibrator, tend to have only one motor and no shaft rotation.  You set the level of vibration you want and you get that in both the shaft and the clitoral stimulator.  Although this is very basic it should provide you with some knowledge of whether or not you should spend a bit more for one with more options.

The most expensive rabbit vibrators can be very creative and advanced.  They usually have more than just a single motor and thus have a practically infinite number of vibration, pulsation and rotation settings.  These also have a much higher quality shaft, durable, long lasting and designed for the perfect stimulation.

Wireless sex toys are becoming very popular these days, the wireless rabbit vibrator is no exception.  With the wireless controller that you hold in your hand there is less weight and bulk in the actual toy.  This allows for more options in solo play and it provides couples a whole new arena to explore.

The clitoral stimulator on these rabbit vibrators were originally shaped like two rabbit ears, even though this tradition is still very popular, there are now many different shapes to choose from.  They range from simple, rounded tops to flames to animal shapes such as dolphins, monkeys or various insects.  Whatever it is that you're into you can find a rabbit vibrator with a shape you will enjoy.

Typically rabbit vibrators are made from basic sex toy materials such as jelly, silicone, plastic and rubber, however with newer technologies coming out in realism, many of these sex toys have been upgraded.  Some of the newer, realistic feel materials are referred to by their commercial names, such as Fururotic, AquaGel or Jel-Lee.

So if you like sex toys and enjoy strong sensations you should definitely consider trying a new rabbit vibrator.

Intro to BDSM: Flogging

One of the best known and most popular pieces of bondage gear is the flogger.  Floggers have been used throughout history as a top-notch torture device, however it has taken a bit of a softer turn and become an incredibly erotic tool for use in BDSM.  Used alone or with other bondage gear such as nipple clamps, this tool should not be underestimated and should always be respected.

An experienced dominant makes flogging look graceful, smooth and even easy, but don't be fooled, it takes a lot of practice to be able to wield a flogger with a true sense of accuracy and power.  Anybody new to BDSM or inexperienced with a flogger and easily cause sensations that the submissive doesn't want or even do bodily damage if not careful.  BDSM safety should be thoroughly researched and learned before engaging in any of its forms or using any type of bondage gear, especially floggers.  However I won't be discussing that here, this article is specifically for floggers, their varieties and how to choose one.

The whip itself is split into two distinct sections, the tails, or the 'business end', and the handle.  The handle can be set up however you choose but the tails must be chosen with care as there are many different factors that will affect the outcome of each strike.

To start off I will discuss some of the various materials that are used when making floggers.

Leather:  Probably the most used of all the various materials, leather is found in all types of bondage gear, not just floggers.  Although cowhide is the most widely used type of leather, you can also find Deerskin, Moose, Elk and Buffalo leather.  Each type of leather does have it's own unique characteristics but the manner in which it was tanned and it's cut are much greater factors in determining the type of whip that is created.

Rubber:   Many floggers will say that rubber creates a much more severe style of flogger.  As a general rule this is true, but in the end it all depends on how it is made, it's style and how it's used.

Chain:  Not very common, and with good reason, floggers made of metal can easily cause serious damage, should be used with great caution and only by those truly experienced in BDSM.

After you choose the type of material you want your flogger to be made out of you then need to decide on its style.

There are four main factors contribute to the sensations that the flogger produces on impact:

Width of the tails:  If your submissive prefers a sharper 'bite' when being struck then you'll want a thinner tail, however if a deeper thud is desired then a thicker tail should be sought.

Tails:  The number of tails attached has a large influence over it's feel, typically the more tails there are the less of a sting is produced.  Most floggers have around 15-25 tails attached.

The tips: Pointed tips cause sting, forked tips cause double the sting, where as rounded and square tips are more gentle.

The tail length:  Tail length tends to be the least important factor in the sensations that the flogger will create but it's important none-the-less.  The big thing to consider is that when using long whips the tip will be moving at a much greater speed with less effort, plus you need to pay more attention that you don't cause 'wrapping'.  Wrapping happens when the tips of the flogger 'wrap' around the shoulder or leg and snap the skin on the other side, when this happens the tips are moving at a very high speed and cause not only extra pain but can easily damage the skin.  The average length for the tails on a flogger is 16-24 inches.

There is an incredibly wide variety of bondage gear out there and flagellation devices are no exception.  Take your time when picking a product but you should also try out a variety of styles and keep them all within easy reach for when the need arises.

Four Simple Steps To Better Self Pleasure

 

Self pleasure can be great fun and with a little practice women can find greater satisfaction from their alone time. There are many tools and techniques that can enhance your self pleasure expertise. The self pleasure tips discussed below maybe already known by some however a few maybe new to you and require a little flexibility.

1. Vibrators can be big help as they will allow you lessen some of the manual labour involved so that you can concentrate more on the enjoyment. The use of a vibrator can provide precise, powerful physical stimulation to the clitoris and gives the user a lot of command over the excitement.

2. Water can really help self-pleasure and assist a women learn more about herself. A good tip is to lie back with your legs spread in a bath with a shower hose and then directing the stream of water gently on to your clitoris. Start slowly and then play with the pressure, then pulsation and finally the warmth. If you don’t have a shower a trickier but possible method is to slide your bum over the drain so that your legs are up in the air and the genitals under the tap or a little bit easier use Jacuzzi jets if you have them.

3. Why not try rubbing against a something perhaps. Suggested items to use would be a soft pillow, a house hold object or vibrator.

4. Speaking of dildos they really can be a benefit to a girl when she is self-pleasuring because they are a delightful complement to clitoral masturbation because they offer the completeness of penetration but can also be used to incite the G-Spot.

Life is all about experimentation and discovering more about whom you are and why stop when it comes to exploring your own body. Introduce a vibrator for greater fun and fufilment. One survey in a glossy magazine stated that 25% of all professional women between 25-34 years of age carry a vibrator in their bag at all times.

The body of a woman is a complicated thing. The female body is complex with many erogenous zones so it requires a little experimentation to understand how to get the most satisfaction from self pleasure time. Ladies an orgasm happens between the ears and not the legs. It is up to every girl individually to understand her own body. If she cannot then how can she expect her partner to when it comes to love making. If a woman wants satisfaction then experimentation through self pleasure is the only way for her to ever truly find the ultimate climax. To learn more visit our site self pleasure for women.

Dirty Talk - How To Pitch It Just Right Every Time

Dirty talk normally falls into one of two areas, depending on the persons involved.

Either the notion of dirty talk leaves you quite expectant, your heart a flutter and your libido quickly rising - or your relationship thoughts turn towards closure and the nicest way possible for you to extract yourself in the shortest amount of time possible.

Whichever of these two factions you fall into, hold your horses a second before jumping in. You need to check a couple of things first and make an informed decision before you react and potentially ruin something good.

If the thought of dirty talk, as suggested to you by a lover, brings a small tingle to certain areas and fills you full of anticipation, all well and good. But you still need to work out and be confident of your partners intentions and limits. You need to know where to begin.

If you are an ex merchant sea person who swears with more than 4 choice expletives when just asking for the salt to be passed, they're unlikely to be hugely surprised by you suddenly vocalising your sexual wants and needs in forthright and emphatic detail. But if you are the epitomy of innocent church mouse who would never dare to say boo to a duck, let alone a goose, you are more than likely to confuse and worry them if you suddenly start forth with a stream of verbals normally found in the books stacked carefully on the highest shelf that are wrapped in flame proof plastic and are covered in warnings!

Work your audience would be the best way of putting it. Work out in your mind what level you think your partner would respond to, what they would find enticing and not be thrown by. Then start talking dirty at a level just below this and work up to it gradually. Think of them as a potential deer in the headlights, liable to startle and flee faster than you can brake!

If they respond well or even seem bored and deflated by your starting pitch, notch it up a bit by throwing in some more descriptive terms for body parts, gently getting coarser and more carnal as you go along.

If you fall into the category of relationship abandoner as soon as something so intimate/wrong/filthy/unusual is hurled at you - stop and consider something first.

Your lover has just suggested or asked you to join in on something that is intimate, private and trusting. The likelihood that they had to steal themselves to ask and that they have gone out on a limb to be this open and honest with you is without question.

Before you slam the relationship door in their face - stop and think about how much that shows of their commitment and feelings to you. They have just trusted you with an insight into their "inner" self, they've opened up and shared something, however indirectly, with you that not many would.

So before you react badly and take offence over something that really isn't worth getting huffy over - stop and think. Is this something that you could work on with them? After all, if they trust you enough to ask, the least you can do is trust them enough to be honest, to explain that you know nothing about this but that you are willing to try and learn - if they'll help you along the way? If it leaves you a bit cold and feeling wrong, explain that to them and talk about it.

After all - how do you know for sure you don't like something and won't enjoy it - until you have tried it?

Your Own Personal Lubricant Choice

In terms of knowing which kind of lubricant is the best in which condition can be gather from interpreting the uses on the bottle. If you are a new user of personal lubricants or not even sure if you really need them, this time you have to read on to be able to know how to decide on which personal lubricant that will be best for you. For most of us, need to stop for a while from foreplay to put personal lubricants can be serious scenario and can even end up immediately you and your partner start to enjoy. Having an open mind and recognizing the fact that personal lubricant can be able to put an extra satisfaction for you and your partner’s intimate leisure interest, you will not feel uneasy about using them.

 

There are many instances when a personal lubricant can come in handy. Taking breastfeeding right now, at the same time experiencing changes on your body due to aging and taking birth control pills, you may want to “lube up” to avoid friction during intercourse. Or you may just take a while to “warm up” and a little personal lubricant could allow you to move on to more enjoyable activities with your partner instead of focusing so much time on foreplay. Moreover, if you decided to use adult toys, either with your partner or just by yourself, it is firmly suggested to make use of personal lubricants, you just have to make sure that the toy will be using is compatible with it.

 

Many types of personal lubricants are available for use and include:

 

• Lubricants to be used with a condom: these are generally thicker lubricants that won’t feel sticky or tight during penetration. Make certain to use one that is secure to use with the kind of condoms you will going to use, like the ones that are water-based so it would take full advantage of the usefulness of the condom.
• Lubricants for oral sex: these are available on different kind of scents and flavors with not so thick and tacky.
• Lubricants for anal sex: these generally have a chemical/compound that helps to desensitize this area before any intimate activities to help increase pleasure during this method of intercourse
• Lubricants to use with sex toys: these generally add that extra lubrication needed to make toy use more enjoyable, but you should also be sure to use one that is safe to use with the toy you will be using. Various sex toys are composed of different materials, and it is advisable to apply lubricant like water-based lubrication for example that will not break your toy.
• Male lubricants: these are normally use for males who do masturbation solo and should have additional lube to prevent friction. When using your favorite sex toys with lubricant during masturbation, and again, make sure that it is compatible to be able to use with your toy without damaging it.

 

All in all, personal lubricant shouldn’t be viewed as a mood stopper, but in fact as a way of increasing the pleasure for both you and your partner. Bear in mind to place it an easy to reach place because when the moods strike you know where to get it simply or else it will kill the mood. Be entertained and be reminded as well to take a look at the directions on how to use the personal lubricant that you chose.

Bondage 101: Use and Safety of Nipple Clamps

Nipple clamps have become very popular with both men and women.  They range from very gentle to quite extreme, more extreme than most people can endure.  Nipple clamps also come in many shapes and sizes some with various accessories to increase the sensations felt when wearing them.

Nipple clamps and their use

Before using nipple clamps make sure to keep in mind to not limit their use to the nipples alone.  There are plenty of great places on the human body that are just craving to be clamped, most notably the genital region on both men and women and on women the clitoris can be a wonderful place for some more gentle clamps.

But for now let's stick with the nipples, before clamping your nipples be sure that they're nice and erect.  The easiest way to achieve this is to rub them, for many even the right thoughts can provide them with a pair of erect nipples.  But for some the process might call for some extra help, in this case you should consider ice cubes, they do wonders for exciting the nipples.

Many nipple clamps are adjustable, you can change the amount of pressure on the clamped area, this is great for beginners and those with sensitive nipples.  If you like more pressure but not the pinch you should try to get as much flesh as possible.  The more flesh you get the wider the area that the clamp is putting pressure on, thus reducing or eliminating that sharp pinch.  Once the nipple is clamped there is a whole new world of sensations awaiting you.  Anything can be used to further stimulate the nipple, including feathers, fingers, tongues, a light whipping or, my favorite, a mini vibrator.  Lightly touching a small vibe onto the tip of a clamped nipple can provide some absolutely wonderful sensations.

There are nipple clamps that are referred to as 'endurance clamps', these are often very similar to other clamps except for the fact that they are not adjustable.  This means that if they're on your nipple then they are squeezing with everything they've got, there's no light setting with this type.  Another type of nipple clamp for those more extreme users are those clamps with teeth.  These clamps tend to not have any extra rubber or padding and as you can probably tell, these little guys can create some pretty hardcore sensations, so if you're at all gentle, you might want to stay away from these.

Nipple clamp safety tips

Much of the pleasure of nipple clamps comes from the fact that the clamp cuts of a certain amount of circulation to the tip, this causes very sensitive nerves, it also means that you should probably not leave the clamp on for much more than 15 minutes at a time.  Plus you should probably be aware that the removal of the nipple clamp is usually the most 'intense' part of the whole thing, in fact it can be downright painful as the blood goes rushing back.

Just like all sex toys out there you should clean your nipple clamps regularly, they can get dirty and nobody wants to put on dirty clamps.  Besides, who wants a nipple infection?  Not me.

Don't forget, nipple clamps are not for women only!  Due to the fact that most women's nipples are a bit larger than men's nipple clamps are often a bit easier to use on women, but men's nipples need attention too.

How To Get The Most From Self Pleasure

Self-pleasure is good for you and is considered to have actual health benefits. Self-pleasure is great as well girls; you get to do it by yourself, on your own terms, you can also experiment to find out what you like and what turns you on. Unfortunately growing up many women are raised with little information about our genitals, sex and self-pleasuring which does not really come naturally for everyone. The secret to bringing each woman to orgasm is different. Women can climax through clitoral stimulation, vaginal penetration or G-Spot stimulation. There is no wrong way self-pleasure we are all different. This article is geared to give the reader the tools to get the most from self pleasure.

1. Setting the mood

If you are going to get the most from the experience you must give yourself plenty of time. I would advise that you give yourself at least half an hour. Ladies you have to unwind and be relaxed why not take a bath or open a bottle of wine. It is as much about state of mind as it is about technique ladies. Next make sure that you can’t be disturbed. That means turning off the mobile/cell, locking the door and if you have children send them round a neighbours. The next step is to position yourself in way that you feel comfortable and relaxed in. Women generally start out on their backs, legs bent and spread apart, with their feet on the ground. Make sure that you have plenty of support and cushioning.

2. Fantasize/romanticize for self-pleasure

This is your alone time and recalling a past sexual encounter or elaborate on a favourite sexual fantasy can really set the mood. If you need a little of bit of help getting started then read an erotic story, look at a sexy publication or even indulge in a bit of adult entertainment. Ladies this is you time anything goes as long as it get the pulse racing.

3. Explore all parts of your body

It amazing but a lot of women really don’t know their own bodies at all. Experiment and run your hands all over your body and if some thing feels good then linger there and just enjoy the feeling it creates. Look at your genitals in a mirror (especially if you are unfamiliar with it) and caress the different parts to see what feels good to you. There are the inner and outer labia, your clitoris, your vagina and your perineum.

4. Don’t be afraid to play around to find what is best for you

Ladies get those fingers working; use one or two fingers and start to stoke different parts of you vulva and remembering to stimulate your clitoris and labia. Find the rhythm that works for you this means experimenting with pressure, speed and motion. I suggest placing fingers either side of the clitoris and stoking up and down, or placing two fingers on the clitoral hood and rubbing in a circular motion.

5. Life is about surprises

Unless you are willing to open up your mind girls and let yourself be comfortable with your own skin and trying everything you will not get the most from your own body. When self-pleasuring try different types of touch: stroke, tickle, knead or why not even try gently pulling your genitals. Anything goes ladies. The options are open to use one or several fingers, the palm of the hand even your knuckles. Don’t be afraid it will only take you to a better place.

6. It is a long and winding road

The thought of reaching that climax is all part of the fun. Imagining riding the wave wil help to heighten the sexual tension. You can add to that by enhancing the excitement yourselves girls. Learn to hold on to your sexual excitement by building up and then reducing temporarily the stimulus. Try to learn what your body is to communicate to you. Your own body will tell you when you have the right tempo or when a certain tickle feels good.

7. Remain relaxed

As the sexual energy starts to build it is critical to let it take you and not to fight it. Breathing deeply rather than holding your breath will help as will rocking your pelvis as in intercourse will help. I would also suggest rhythmically clenching and releasing your PC muscle (if you are looking for vaginal penetration then a dildo will help).

8. Ride the wave
At the start of your climax is key to continue to excite yourself through to orgasm. The body start to get more sensitive so lighten up during those first receptive seconds but keep going to enjoy the pleasurable aftershocks. The first orgasm may feel like a blip or a explosion however the more you practice the more range you will develop and understand.

Self-pleasuring is obviously a very personnel thing. The way forward is through further exploration and practice because it will lead to more enjoyable orgasms and self knowledge of what works best for turning you on. Experimentation through self-pleasure will not only lead to personnel self satisfaction but can only benefit your sex life as you work out what you like and then pass on that information to your partner. Please visit our site self pleasure for women to learn more about the power of your own body.

How To Talk Dirty - A Breakdown Of The Basics!

Talking dirty to your partner can seem like a pretty far out idea to many people. For some it is an issue of being scared to expose themselves in such a way, as it exposes a unique vulnerability to their mate that they wouldn’t normally disclose. For others it stems out of a feeling of looking silly, like something out of a bad porn movie. They just can't wrap their minds around the idea of talking dirty being something that’s... well sexy and intoxicating for their partner!

It’s something new and unfamiliar, and the unfamiliar tends to be pretty darn uncomfortable for many people.

Talking dirty however, doesn't have to be a re-enactment of a bad B movie. It doesn't even have to be overtly sexual. It’s really just a natural extension of the mental and physical pleasure you get from your partner, and as such it is a great way to spice up your sex life.

So let’s talk some basic ‘how to talk dirty’ details shall we?

Start slow for you and your partner’s benefit.

First of all there’s no need to jump right into "spank me, show me who's the boss!" (Some of you may never find that enjoyable or comfortable, however long you enjoy dirty talk as one aspect of a potentially all encompassing love life!). Either way, it is best to start slow, with simple dialog expressing how you feel in regard to what is happening at that moment.

Comments such as "I really like it when you touch me there”... or “it feels so good when you kiss me like that". You can play around with different comments to make, tell your partner what you are going to do to them, or how much you like doing this or that to them, etc.

Quite literally, the only limit here is not just your imagination (as some people tend to believe) but also your memory. Think back to the times you’ve made love, read something or seen something that has excited you or turned you on. See the actual act in your mind and then simply describe it. If you can add you or your partner into your description – even better!

Expand your vocabulary and find your voice.

For many of us the main roadblock in learning how to talk dirty, is that we have no idea what we are going to say, or how exactly to say it! Talking dirty isn't a science, it's a way of expressing how you feel. Your dirty talk may prefer to come out as low voiced whispers and pants, or loud screaming and yelling. Most run the gamut of in between those extremes!

It is also best to stay away from precise anatomy terms like penis or vagina which could well you’re your dirty talk into a semi boring anatomical lecture. Use slang words and names instead, allowing both you and your partner to feel more relaxed and ‘at ease’.

The point is to let loose and have fun! Do a bit of on line research if you can't think of some dirty words to use.

Practice Makes Perfect, No One is Perfect – So Keep Practicing!

Practice talking dirty when you are home alone. If you wonder how you look when talking dirty, try it out in front of the mirror. If you really want to go to town on practicing and becoming a Jedi master at Dirty Talk – try recording yourself, either audio or video. You’ll be able to get a much better idea of how you sound and how you look by doing this. (Just make sure you erase the tape before the kids find it!)

Another way to practice is to talk dirty to yourself while you masturbate. It can help to make you more comfortable with the sound of your voice during such an intimate act. To some that may make them feel awfully self conscious and uncomfortable but, and it’s a big BUT here, in order to become effective at talking dirty to your partner, you need to feel comfortable yourself. If you are all twisted up, nervous and hating every second, he’ll know and fast.

Result = Turn Off.

Time has shown that Practice Does Make Perfect (or close too!) so practice. I promise you, the more you practice the better you’ll feel and get!

Rules & Boundaries

One more important thing to do before embarking on your dirty talk adventure is to set the rules up with your partner. Many people as mentioned won't talk dirty due to fear of looking silly or being laughed at. It is important to set up rules, like no judging each other, or laughing at each other, or correcting each other's attempts to talk dirty. When you are caught up in the excitement, and learning how to talk dirty, there is no telling what might come out of your mouth or your partner’s mouth, so it is important to feel safe from ridicule when trying out new things.

It opens up doors for many more exciting options for the future!

All the best of technology and stimulation: Silicone

When it comes to female breast augmentation surgery, most people are familiar with the application of silicone as a standard material. Regardless, silicone features several other applications, since it ‘s such a strong and versatile material. Since it’s so lastable, it’s a good material to make sex toys. Since silicone toys are usually handcrafted, the increased labor usually makes these toys get somewhat expensive.

So, it comes as no surprise that silicone toys are sold as premium toys, Regardless, there’s a good chance you’ll think the cost is worthwhile. There are also male sextoy's available, the most common of which is the fleshlite, the fleshlite is a torch shaped object for use in male masturbation. Being a completely non-porous material, silicone can be cleaned or sterilized, which allows sharing the to - provided it gets properly cleaned in between uses. When it comes to cleaning, you should choose boiling your silicone toy (provided there’s no battery pack) for about 20 minutes – that way you’ll get best results.

Silicone is a rather hypoallergenic material, so people are unlikely to ever get a rash from using silicone love toys. If price used to be the sole reason keeping your from getting a silicone toy, you should think again. Granted, the price is higher for a silicone toy, but the cost will be offset by its durability. A silicone toy is pretty much indestructible, unless your dog accidentally mistakes it for a chewing toy. Apart from that, silicone is surprisingly soft and elastic, and its touch is so realistic it makes up for an incredible feeling.

Being such a smooth material, silicone rarely requires trimming down lumps to achieve comfort, besides it warm quite nicely with your body. When it comes to erotic toys, silicone will provide you with the most pleasurable experience, just as long as you’re not worried about paying premium. It will not only delight with its look and superior feel, but also keep you and your favorite playmate happy for years to come. However you should keep in mind never to use a lubricant which also contains silicone, because an adverse reaction is likely to ruin your toy’s surface. Be sure to use a water-based lubricant like Sensual Essence or Climax H2O.

Faqs - What Is The Clitoris, How Do I Find It And What Can It Do For Me

The clitoris is often over looked and neglected despite modern female awareness and the understanding of many women of their own sexual being. It is unbelievable that even in these enlightened times how little information is out there concerning the clitoris and how it functions and contributes to the pleasure of a women.

The clitoris has to be understood and is key to this change. Slowly there is more infomation regarding the clitoris and it isbeing understood a lot more clearly. Most people including doctors and sexual therapists believe that the clitoris is a small pea-sized bump and that a females sexual response isn't as potent as a man's however this is not factually correct.

The clitoris has 18 parts some which you can see like the glans or tip, inner lips and the hood; which is the equivalent of the foreskin in men. The clitoris is a powerful organ of sexual pleasure. The tip has over 8,000 sensory nerve endings which is more than any other part of the body. Factor in the requirements of pregnancy and women have much more blood supply to the pelvic area and longer and stronger pelvic muscles. The overall effect is that the clitoris unlike the penis which produces a single powerful explosive orgasm can produce multiple orgasms (up to 100!). It can thus be argued that women sexual pleasure response is more powerful than man’s.

It is time for women to understand the make up of the clitoris. It is now known that the way the clitoris is interconnected means that all female orgasms through stimulation of the female genitalia are directly linked to the clitoris.

Australian urologist Dr. Helen O’Connel using MRI technology noted that direct relationship the legs or roots of the clitoris and the erectile tissues of the clitoral bulbs and corpora, and the distual urethra and vagina. O’Connel asserts that this interconnected relationship is the physiological explanation for the G-spot and the experience of vaginal orgasm taking into account the stimulation of the internal parts of the clitoris during vaginal penetration. Women who experience orgasm from both direct clitoral stimulation of the glans and vaginal access to the internal bodies distinguish between then in terms of both the physical and general sensation associated with each. (in other words the clitoris is why women get an orgasm from vaginal penetration as the internal clitoris is stimulated).

During sexual arousal and orgasm, the clitoris and the whole of the genitalia engorge and change colour as the erectile tissues fill with blood, and the individual experience vaginal contractions. Masters and Johnson documented the sexual response cycle, which has four phases and is still the clinically accepted definition of the human orgasm. More recent research has determined that women can experience a sustained intense orgasm through stimulation of the clitoris and remains in the orgasmic phase for much longer that original studies indicate, evidenced by genital engorgement and colour changes, and vaginal contraction.

The understanding of the clitoris is slowly being observed but has some way to go. What we can say categorically is that the clitoris is intrinsic to any stimulation that results in orgasm. Direct stimulation can be painful for a women and it maybe better for a women to excite herself another way to get wet first for better comfort. The other option is to use your favourite lube to make things slippery. What ever women do in sexual situations the clitoris has to be remembered either in love-making of self pleasure to en-heighten the orgasm. Concerntrating solely onthe clitoris can add variety to female self pleasure. If you want to learn more about female erogenous zones or self pleasure then please visit my site self pleasure for women.

Bondage Basics: Safety in Flogging

In practically all BDSM toy play and use of bondage gear there is some risk, which is nominal if the proper precautions are taken.  Before trying any new BDSM activity or using any new piece of bondage gear make sure you read all the safety warnings and learn how to keep it safe.  Flogging is no exception to this rule and should be treated with respect or somebody will get hurt.

One of the biggest problems that floggers run into is an issue that's referred to as "wrapping".  Wrapping occurs when you over extend a strike with a whip and the tips actually wrap around your target to some extent, this action causes the tips to greatly accelerate and can cause a much larger than desired level of pain or even bodily harm.  This is why when you first try flogging you should practice on something such as a pillow to learn aim and control.  Make sure you practice with the pillow in a horizontal and a vertical position.  The comfort and safety of your sub is at stake so be sure you are comfortable with your flogging devices before you start.

After you become familiar with the basics of flogging and want to try your hand at a human submissive you need to know what body parts are ok to strike, which are ok, but only lightly and which are completely off limits.  So I will go over those various parts now.

The first parts I will go over are those that are ok to strike.

The buttocks:  This is a very common location to flog and typically very safe.  There is a lot of padding here and no vital organs nearby so as long as you keep the strikes within reason there should be very little in the way of safety concerns.  This is also a perfect place to begin if you are just starting.  A couple things to keep in mind: watch out for wrapping as the hips are delicate and should be avoided and be careful to not strike the tailbone.

The upper back:  Another common place to flog is the upper back, there is usually little in the way of fat but there is a large amount of muscle here providing great protection.  For some, parts of the lower body are a bit too sensitive and so the upper back is the preferred location for work.  One big safety point for this area is to not use any floggers that are stiff such as paddles or canes.  The spine and shoulder blades are delicate and can be damaged if struck by a stiff instrument.

Thighs:  The thighs can be a great spot for many submissives, there is still ample padding but there are also multiple places that are extra sensitive.  The inner thighs are often targeted due to their sensitivity as is the 'sweet spot', located in the crease between the lower buttocks and the upper thigh.  This area is also popular for many other types of bondage gear such as sensation play toys.  Keep in mind to be careful about wrapping here as the target area is not a flat surface.

There are areas of the body that should always be avoided due to the possibility of doing serious damage, those are:


Hips
Tailbone
Lower back (the kidneys are here and have little protection)
Head and neck
Feet (the bottoms of the feet are sometimes used, but be very careful, bones in the feet are fragile)
Spine
All joins (elbows, knees, wrists, etc...)
Shoulders (near the neck and collar bones)
Upper chest
Abdomen and lower chest (lots of organs and ribs and very little protection)

There are areas not covered in either of the above two sections, these areas can be worked although you need to be very careful when doing so and should only be done either very lightly or when you have learned full control.  One particular area that many people are interested in are the breasts.  The breasts are a common and fun place to use various types of bondage gear, however you should be careful when using a flogger and be very gentle.  There are many people out there that say flogging can cause serious damage to the breasts, so keep it light, the nipples and surrounding area are very sensitive so heavy hitting is not necessary.

But safety always comes down to using common sense and following safe habits.  Learn from experienced BDSM masters and learn from your sub, they will teach you a lot.

Toys For Boys

I am sitting in the GST sex-shop in north London, glancing up a plastic vagina. I don't do this usually. However a few weeks ago I viewed a news video about some folks in Germany who have reported a pharmacy to the German equal opportunities comisison because of sexual discrimination. The reason, cause it sells sextoys for females and not for males. Now people don't usually talk about this, they rabbit on about the rabbit, but the rubber vagina has yet to have its Sex and the City moment. So what is out there, Or rather, what is in there?

Daniel Rostance is the sales rep for G,S,T. He's a giant and he looks moody, though he guides me through the shelves of men's toys with the energy of a mechanic discussing engine parts. "The big thing at the moment are the anal toys," he says, waving at a wall of Rocks Off Naughty Boy prostate massagers. "Lads look to have found their bums at long last. Straight men didn't used to want to buy anything anal," he beams at me - the fleshlite, "That's all changed."

Together we peruse inflatable dolls there is an obese one called Fatima the Fully Functioning Sex Doll, who I feel a weird compassion for and some vaginas. I stuck my finger up one. It has the texture of warm apple pie. It feels dead. "Fellas mostly get them to use alone," Peter whispers. He points out the Juicy Lucy portable can, which looks like a beer can but has both a vagina and an anus inside, and the Fleshlight, a torch containing a vagina. Both look like they were made by the ever-smiling Q for James Bond, "Now, Bond, if you press this a vagina will shoot out!"

Toys are a lot more acceptable now than they used to be. There is more mixing between the mainstream and us. But sex toys for women are still more talked about. There is such a large market. Why is this, Why do women wave their rabbits at the world while men hide their rubber vaginas?

A mans sextoy does not look quite as cute as female sex-toys. A butt plug looks more attractive than a fake vagina. You can't say the vagina is an ugly thing. You cant call them ugly, quite the opposite infact.

A Peek into Breast Bondage

Very light forms of breast torture, or as some refer to it, tit torture, are practiced every day all over the world, probably even by you.  Extremely gentle forms includ pinching or nippling on the nipples or firmly squeezing the breasts.  However, breast bondage is typically a fair bit more intense, involving various acts of inflicting pain on or tying up the breasts and nipples.  Although this form of BDSM is usually perceived as being performed on women, men's nipples are also very easy targets for torture.  Some forms of breast torture involve caning, piercing, electricity and cutting, although this list if far from complete.

Breast torture has been used throughout history, much in a non-consensual, torture setting, used to extract confessions from women, such as being a witch.  However, here I'm going to discuss breast torture in an erotic light.  Around 300 B.C. you could find information on pinching, biting, whipping, etc... of body parts in the Kama Sutra, as long as it was consensual.  There were parts that even focuses on breasts and nipples.

In the more 'enlightened' form of breast bondage, bothe the dominate and the 'victim' enjoy the entire experience, although for obviously very different reasons.  The intensity and length of the sessions is usually dependant on the subordinate player, or sub.  Rules and limits are always set in advance and a safe word is put in place, the safe word is used by the sub when things go to far or when she starts to feel uncomfortable.  Some form of breast bondage is commonplace, this includes the use of nipple clamps, pinching, biting and so on, however there are some women who enjoy much more extreme sensations when engaging in breast bondage.  This more extreme version can include a large amount of intense pain, which is why some women enjoy it so much, subs often say that they experience a sort of euphoric state, due to the large amount of endorphines and adrenaline that is released during a session.  The dom on the other hand gets his or her enjoyment from something entirely different.

The sensations that the dom can experience range through all five senses.

The visual of seeing the sub's breasts tied up or clamped or put in any painful position.  Watching as they bulge and become discolored.

The feeling of crushing her breasts in the dom's hands, feeling the breasts squeeze between his or her fingers or the feeling of pinching the nipple strongly.

The smell of the victim as she sweats from the pain, or the smell of the hot wax as he or she pours it over the swollen nipples.

The salty taste of sweat on the tortured breasts and nipples.

Listening to the moans and groans as the dom tortures and punishes the woman's breasts and nipples, for many this is a very powerful sense.

Most BDSM play, breast bondage being no exception, is based on living out the more intense fantasies that many people experience.  With the addition of many different sex toys and other bondage products that are now readily available, everyone, in the privacy of their own home can now safely engage in BDSM play of all levels.  Some of the bondage gear and products used are:

Nipple clamps - these are typically used on the nipple itself but can just as easily be used on any part of the breast.  Nipple clamps range from fully adjustable, gentle and padded clamps to those nipple clamps with teeth  or those that are made to stretch the nipple.  Weights are also used, they are often attached to a chain that connects the two clamps to add extra pressure.

Flagellation toys - in addition to clamping the nipples and breasts many enjoy their breasts to be slapped in some way, common products for this are whips, canes, paddles and your own hand.

Rope - not only is rope used to tie down the sub so you have unrestricted access to her breasts but it's used to tie the breasts themselves.  When wrapped around the base of the breast (with full safety consideration and know-how) it can be used to cut off some circulation, causing discoloration and bulging.

Needles - usually used in more extreme breast bondage, needles are used to pierce the nipple, often comletely through and out the other side.

Temperature play - Burning or freezing the nipples, often used are lighters, ice, hot wax, etc..., quickly switching from one temperature extreme to another will cause a very intense sensation.

A final note on BDSM, breast bondage is but one small part in the entire BDSM spectrum.  The intensity can range from gentle with very little or no pain all the way up to incredibly painful and even physically scarring.  There are many social web sites on the Internet if you would like to explore any of BDSM's fascinating features.

Add a Little Spice to Your Sex Life

There's a lot of talk out there about long, 'marathon sex', about the need for extensive foreplay to get things going, the need for sex toys and changing positions 35 times to extend the session.  Now, I'm not saying there's anything wrong with extended sexy escapades, they definitely have their place in any sexually active relationship.  However, let’s not forget about the unsung champion, the 'quickie'.

Many men feel that nearly all women don't enjoy these speedy encounters, or that women can't be satisfied by them.  This thought, as unfortunately familiar as it is, is completely wrong.  But on the opposite side of that coin, many women out there feel that asking for a passionate sexy encounter against the fridge or at the office will make them seem easy or dirty.  I beseech you, don't think in this manner.  Men that will look down on a woman for wanting to express her sexuality and her desire to be with him in unorthodox ways are very, very rare.

The average woman, while engaging is self-pleasure, can climax in under three minutes, that same woman can reach the same end in just less than eight minutes through sex.  With the addition of the emotional strength of a quickie in the back of a pickup, and the additional excitement of possibly someone catching you will often help the participants in attaining the end result even more quickly.  This means that in most cases a woman will be plenty happy by end of a fast ‘meeting’, and even if time runs out before either or both get to climax it’s still enjoyable and can add some pleasure to your day.

Sex toys can also improve the ‘quickie’ experience as these encounters aren’t always completely spontaneous.  For couples who are practiced users of sex toys, or anybody who wants to try some new things, keep a mini sex toy or 2 with you next time you take an outing.  Carrying a small, discrete sex toy on you, such as a vibrating bullet or finger vibrator, will give you even more options for fun when the mood hits.  There are sex toys that vibrate (which should typically only be used where there is decent ambient noise) which are easily be used on both women and men, you should also think about using ‘fingers’ which are usually rubber and are put on the end of your finger and almost always have added bumps or ridges for extra pleasure.  In addition, you can find sex toys that are meant for the man’s pleasure such as special hand wraps used to improve stimulation by hand.

There are many popular places to get busy, including:

• On the kitchen table
• In your truck
• In a supply closet
• In a public restroom (a clean one, of course)
• In the outdoors on a hike
• Or wherever the mood hits!

So remember, chiefly for all the bashful ladies out there, open up, let your lover know when you're in need of some love and let those creative juices flow!  Sometimes the best sex is quickie sex in a random, quasi-public place at 1:54 p.m.

How To Write A Dirty Letter To My Boyfriend - What To Say And How To Think!

If you and your boyfriend are apart for awhile, geographical distance between you - why not write him a dirty letter to let him know for sure that you miss him and are thinking of him.

But wait, why stop there?

Why wait until your lover is far removed to show him you care? Why not write him a dirty letter anyway, even if he only lives around the corner. The surprise and pleasure he'll get from receiving it will really make you extra popular (think gold stars in abundance here!) and will make him lust after you even more.

But what should you write, how should you write, what would you say? How to write a dirty letter to my boyfriend is not an easy thing to do first time round.

Here are a few tips and ideas to help you pen a letter that Nell Gwyen would be proud of:-

Write Your Thoughts, Not Someone Else's - write to your boyfriend about things you and he can identify with, that are either something you've done together or is a desire for the future. Don't make anything up beyond sexual fantasy, as it will strike him as odd and slightly unsettling. Think back to the last time you made love together. Who did what to who, what touches made you feel hot, how did he look or sound. Think about it, remember it in your mind's eye and then simply write it down on paper.

You don't have to be Shakespeare or an English major, don't worry about how polished it reads. the most heartfelt writing will always warm the readers passion whether it is spelt well and uses poor grammar or not - it's simply the thought that counts here.

Use Your Pen & Hand - When you write a love letter, write it. Don't type it and print it out to send or attach it to an email, use good paper and a pen. Type is impersonal and slightly bland. Your handwriting is you, a part of your character that your boyfriend loves and as such, is compelling and loving.

Add Character To Your Letter - Got a favorite perfume your boyfriend likes? A color of lipstick he prefers? Add these to the letter. A subtle whiff of your perfume will heighten his senses as he reads, bringing you closer to him, making him want you even more. A kiss from your lips wearing a shade of lipstick he loves and associate with you will make him smile and want to be able to kiss you back.

Share Your Wants - As you write and feel how much he means to you and how much you want him, try and transfer that to paper. Tell him in exact detail (explicit if that is what you both enjoy) what you want him to do to you as soon as he is through your front door. But be careful - men are specific animals and they take things such as you describing what you want him to do to you as actual! Only write what you really want him to do to you, don't try and impress and write something a porn star would scream at and run away from. You run the risk of disappointing him hugely if he finds it was not real!

Examples of Dirty Talk - Where To Say What You Need To Say!

As well as the question of what to say when you talk dirty to someone, you also have the choice to make of where you say something to them. For a large percentage of people, this may be confined to the bedroom. But what if you have the urge to really electrify your partner in public?

Dirty talk - its fun and naughty and can inject life into a new or old relationship. If your sex life is lacking then consider including some raunchy talk into the foreplay and also during sex. New relationships can also benefit even if you still can't keep your hands off each other. By starting dirty talk early on, you will both become comfortable with it and will never have the inhibitions that can develop within longer relationships if neither partner has engaged in dirty talk.

Talking dirty can be done anytime, anywhere. Why just save it for the bedroom? What about all those other wasted hours? Think about where else you can talk dirty to your loved one and be imaginative. You don't even have to be present with each other to enjoy it!

So here are some examples of dirty talk ideas, specifically where you can do it,  to make it even more raunchy and exciting:

In Public

Scared of showing affection in public? Don't be! If you are a little shy, just whispering raunchy words into each other ears can be incredibly erotic in a public place as you know you can't do anything there but you truly wish you could. What an experience! Everyone around you will wonder what's so exciting.

At the Cinema

Watching a boring movie? Even if it's not boring, flirting with each other and talking dirty is an amazing way to spice up the night. If you're lucky and have the cinema to yourself you can even go a little further than just talk! Try it and see why this is considered one of the raunchiest ways of getting close to each other.

While Shopping

Have you ever wondered how to spice up those grocery shopping trips? Talk dirty! No one can hear if you are whispering in each others ears. What a way to get in the mood for when you get home!

At Work

No, you don't have to be working together! Calling each other at lunch or while the other is working is a great time for dirty talk. As long as you have a private place to talk, go wild! Tell him what you plan to do to him tonight. This is sure to excite him and get him in the mood as soon as he walks in the door that night.

These examples of where to conduct dirty talk give you a few starting points.

Dirty Phone Talk - Tips On How To Get The Most Fun

Lots of people own phones but hardly anyone thinks touse them to add a bit of spice and vavoom to their boyfriends day! How? Read these tips to discover a new way of making him smile.

Talking dirty on the phone can be a challenge initially but it only takes a few practice runs to really get the hang of this sort of flirtation. Many people find that dirty phone talk is actually easier than face to face dirty talk. This is without a doubt because there is no body language to interpret and your partner won't catch your blushing as you say those naughty words!

People use dirty phone talk for a number of reasons including:

- Long distance relationships
- Chat lines
- Before meeting a person for the first time
- Just for fun

There are arguments against whether men or women find it easier to talk dirty on the phone. Whilst men may be considered to be the least timid of the sexes, it is often he who has the most difficulty talking dirty over the phone. The reason for this is unknown but it is possible to make your man talk dirty on the phone by following some of these dirty phone talk tips.

Make the first move

When two people decide to talk dirty over the phone there is often an interlude of "you go first" comments from both parties. For some reason nobody ever wants to make the first move! Nonetheless it is best to get the first few words out of the way as it gets easier from there.

Make it easier on your partner

Your partner, male or female, will most likely feel nervous if you mention you want to talk dirty on the phone. The way to relax them is to simply ease into it. Rather than heading for the most intimate of chats, start with some mild flirty talk and escalate it from there. You will find that this easing in of the partner will assist matters considerably.

Be open minded

Talking dirty does not necessarily mean using various four letter words. If you are not comfortable using such words then that is ok. There are many other ways to speak sensually to your partner so it is perfectly ok to use any words that pop into mind. Your partner will simply enjoy you talking in this manner and in fact, sensual speak rather than outright swearing can be even more seductive.

Dirty talk on the phone is fun and a great way to be with your partner if you can not physically be together.

How Do I Use A Dildo/Sex Toy For The First Time

The first time you see a sex toy it can be awkward and unnerving. The majority of companies don't give your a manual on how best to use the sex toy you have just purchased. They just presume that you know where to "stick it". This is unfortunate because unless you know what you are doing you cannot feel the true benefit of owning a sex toy.

As a result I have decided to put together a guide here to help those who are approaching dildo use without much experience. It is not a step by step guide but will point you in the right direction.

1. Lubrication

Unlike a penis a dildo doesn’t produce it’s on lubricant so girls it very important to lubricate up. It is a common fallacy that a woman own natural lubricant will suffice, in fact quite often many materials of penetrative toys actually can absorb the women lubricant. Whenever a woman is using a penetrative toy it is vital that she uses a lot of lubricant. Remember most materials don’t slide easily and if not properly lubricated can lead to unpleasant friction that may need to nasty soreness that can last for several days.

2. In the Mood For Love

You will feel discomfort if you try to use a sex toy before being suitably aroused. Take your time with the toy and work your way to arousal through stimulation of other erogenous zones. If you have a vibrating dildo for example; gently caress you clitoris using a gentle buzz setting to get yourself excited if not use your hands. You would’t want a lover to jump right in and the same approach has to be applied to dildo use.

3. Take it easy

The first penetration should be taken very slowly and with deep breaths. Taking these long breaths allows blood to rush to the genitals that help them to engorge and relax. If you take short breaths or hold your breath it stops all of this taking place resulting tightness and tenderness. Once the dildo is inserted I would suggest leaving it in there for a moment to allow the body to get used to the feel of it and give the time for the body to relax properly. Remember you don’t have to insert the entire dildo in (do what feels nice and comfortable). Some women like deep penetration and others more shallow insertion. Remember that it is your toy girls you are in control and play around with your dildo. Work out what feels nice. Lube yourself up around the genitals and your dildo then rub it against your lips and clitoris teasing yourself and then penetrate it really is a lot of fun.

4. Are We Having Fun Yet?

Do anything you want ladies. Insert the entire dildo or only half of it, put it deeper or shallower, enjoy fast or slow motions (tease yourself when you feel that you are close to climax, stop then count to thirty and begin pleasuring yourself again, let the anticipation build again, stop and repeat this a few times the resulting orgasm will be electric). Always try to maximise the time you play with your dildo/sex toy. I like to go deep and hard when I am hot and aroused.

In Conclusion

There is no hard and fast rule about dildo use and the key is to take you time and relax, have fun and listen to what your body is telling you. Remember girls practice makes perfect and the more you use your dildo the more you will understand your body and the greater the delights that will unfold.

Well ladies enjoy the ride but please note after that great orgasm you aren’t finished. Always make sure that you clean you dildo with anti-bacterial soap and water, commercial sex toy cleaner or sterilize it (many dildo are now even dishwasher safe!). Then rinse you dildo and make sure it is properly dried. Then when your dildo is squeaky clean and dry, store in a dry and at room temperature. Then storing in a soft material in a drawer will be fine. Never use a faulty or damaged dildo because the genital tissue is very fragile and can be easily damaged by faulty dildo. Please girls enjoy your dildo they really are fun. If you want to learn more about self pleasure the click the link to my site self pleasure for women.

Sex Toys in Our Society: 1800's - Present

Sex toys have had a long and varying history.  In this article I will only be discussing them from the 1800's and on.

During the Victorian Era sexuality in literature and sex toys in general were typically considered very taboo.  But it was also during this time period that we saw a great movement forward in 'sex toys technology'.  Not only did we see the introduction of rubber dildos, butt plugs and the very first vibrators, but the sex toys that did already exist saw a drastic improvement in realism, comfort and sanitation.

Not only were there sex toys to be used at home in place but there were spas that offered there 'services' through water jet massages and steam-powered vibrating devices.  Men and women alike would go to these spas under the guise of 'medicinal treatments'.

There was an illness that was incredibly popular to diagnose during the 1800's, but only women were affected by it and it had a treatment that led to a steep increase in sex toy usage, especially vibrators.  The illness was called Hysteria, from the Greek word 'hystera' meaning Uterus.  I won't go into details on what caused Hysteria but I will state that pelvic massaging by doctors was the standard treatment until the invention of vibrators.  This caused a rapid increase in vibrator sales and use as they were prescribed by doctors and used 'medicinally'.  And although Hysteria is no longer a recognized illness its effects on the popularity of vibrators can be easily seen.

As more and more houses got electricity, more and more women were able to get vibrators for at-home Hysteria treatment.  Then as battery powered vibrators started to come about, still more women were able to get relief from that nasty Hysteria at home.  During the early 1900's you could start finding advertisements in catalogs such as Sears for vibrators, which the touted as an essential home utility.  It wasn't long before it was no longer necessary to be diagnosed with Hysteria to be able to buy yourself a vibrator.

During the 60's when free love was everywhere there was a great rise in sex toy use.  Retail outlets and magazines selling sex toys became much more common.  And now you can find them in almost every city in the United States, and with the rise in online purchases, not only can you get sex toys from anywhere, you can get them discretely.

Sex toy popularity is continually on the rise, individuals and couples alike are becoming ever more open to the idea of sex toy use.  The days of the mentality of only the single and lonely using sex toys are rapidly dying off.

Role playing and light bondage, such as the use of simple nipple clamps, are also becoming ever more popular with today's couples, raising the sales of costumes and restraining devices.  So if you haven't tried a sex toy by yourself or with your partner today is a great day to try something new!

How to Perform Incredible Manual Stimulation on a Woman

Becoming a better lover is not an easy task, it requires time and effort and above all communication.  Nobody is born with the knowledge to please every woman, although sometimes it sure seems that some guys were.

There are many different aspects to providing pleasure to a woman and in this article I will be discussing just one of those, manual stimulation, or fingering.

There are a wide variety of ways that you can 'man handle' your woman so that she'll be begging for more.  But you always need to keep in mind that for every woman there is a different preference in how she likes to be touched and what really gets her going.

An important thing to remember is that the brain truly is the body's largest sex organ, so in order to 'prep' her vagina you're first going to have to make her mentally ready.  This is due to the fact that if she isn't producing any lubricant of her own then any serious activity down there could be quite uncomfortable, even downright painful.  So before you start right in on the pleasing make sure she's ready, take your time, communicate, there's no hurry.

There's one more thing I would like to bring up before I share a couple great techniques with you on how to finger a girl.  As I already mentioned, all women have different preferences for what they enjoy sexually.  Some women can have a full orgasm solely from g-spot stimulation, with no clitoral attention at all.  Other women can't reach orgasm without at least some clitoral stimulation. And as unfortunate as it is, some women can't reach orgasm at all, no matter the stimulation and time.  But to improve her chances make sure you keep the lines of communication open and pay attention to her reaction.

The techniques I will go over here are just guidelines, remember to change them as necessary for the situation and the woman you're with.

1) The Ol' Dependable
Even reached around a woman and felt between her legs with your fingers?  It's the classic way to finger a woman, but just because it's a classic doesn't mean it's not going to get the job done, because it definitely will.
After having properly aroused the largest sex organ in her body and she's noticeably moist you take your index and middle fingers and rub them in a circular motion around her clit.  She needs to know it's ok to communicate, ask her how it feels or if she likes what you're doing to her. She may want you to use those fingers and go inside her for a while before returning to her clit.
Always be sure to keep a rhythm going, whether fast or slow, keeping it steady is key to really getting her off.

2) The Twister
This technique is similar to a standard in and out movement with your straight finger(s), but with a twist. To begin you should place yourself between her legs while she lies down on her back or leans back in a seated position.
To start you place your fingers just inside the lips of her vagina with your palm facing downwards, then as you push your fingers in deeper you twist your hand so that at maximum penetration your palm is facing upwards. On retrieval you again twist so your palm is facing downwards at minimum penetration.
One thing to keep in mind is try to hold pressure on the upper wall of the vagina, this is where the g-spot is located and this type of fingering technique is generally aimed at g-spot stimulation.

3) Take it up a Notch With Sex Toys
As great as the human fingers are, sometimes it's nice to have a little extra variety, variety is the spice of life, you know.
One option is called a finger, or finger vibrator, and rightly so, this little toy is essentially a small extension to your own digits.  However it does have something your fingers lack; nubs and ticklers.  You just place these over your own fingers and go on with business as usual.
A different option is using a vibrator such as a bullet.  You may know these as common sex toys that women use for masturbation, however they can be just as fun, if not more so, when used by a partner.  You can even take the bullets up a level by adding a finger sex toy onto them!

My Final Word

There's a lot of ways to pleasure your partner and a lot of ways for him/her to pleasure you! Don't let yourself get caught in a rut, don't limit yourself, don't stop communicating, don't stop practicing and it's you that'll be 'that guy' who's a god in bed.

And don't forget lubrication, it's very important to have, especially if the woman you are with doesn't produce enough of her own.

Different Sextoys Classes

Adult toys there are three groups and six different categories. The category of sex toys depends on what is the uses of each toy and to whom it is made for. Unlimited number of sex toys is present in the market with different kind and classes so you could absolutely have something that you like and want to use. There are toys that could be used with another person or just for you which you can choose for your personal happiness.

 

The three groups that sex toys can be grouped in are those that are used for male/female masturbation. In general, these toys are used when no-one else is there and you want to get busy. These toys allow you to get the experience that is stimulating and better orgasms. There are toys out there that can be used for couples of the opposite sex that can add spice to their relationship by changing their sex life and offering them so much pleasure. The last group of toys are those that are used for gay couples. Basically these toys are a must have for gay couples for the reason that they could add enjoyment for them significantly.

 

All sex toys can be classed in six different categories that is dependent upon what they are used for. Vibrators are the most common sex toy and come in a variety of vibrators that come in different shapes and sizes and are made from a variety of different materials. Vibrators can use with battery operated and water proof.

 

Dildos, like vibrators, come in a variety of shapes, sizes and are made from many different materials. There are dildos that can be strapped on, which can greatly add to the satisfaction of female couples. They are more traditional but some are also double-headed for twice the enjoyment.

 

Anal plugs are not considered taboo as they once were and are becoming quite popular with those that visit their local toy store or favorite adult website. In this class of toys it consist of anal beads, lubricants and probes and butt plugs even those with vibration settings.

 

BDSM toys are those that are used in bondage. There’s no issue regarding if you are new to it or a pro, soft bondage kits to leather straps,blindfolds,leashes and cuffs and other sex toys are available to everyone.

 

Male sex toys are those that are specific for a male to wear and achieve maximum climax. You can use these toys either by yourself or with your partner and it would provide more excitement for both when it is used during sexual intercourse. These toys are generally made from material that feels comfortable when worn over the penis and includes such toys as cock rings, penis pumps and masturbators.

 

Female sex toys are probably the largest class of sex toys because most toys are targeted towards the female audience.For the toy of this category includes toys that can provide better invigoration for females and encompass the wide choice of vibrators which could be on the market like The Rabbit. Some toys comprise of orgasm balls, bullets and love eggs that are all made to allow her get the greatest orgasm of her time.

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What is Hysteria and Why do Women Suffer from it?

Hysteria is an illness that no longer exists, it afflicted women throughout history until the early to mid 1900's.  But why were women the only ones susceptible to this sickness?  And why did doctors start providing pelvic massages and prescribing vibrators to cure it?

The answer lies in a part of the female anatomy, the uterus.  The ancient Greeks had a word for the uterus, it was 'hystera'.

So the uterus is the center of this disease, its origins if you will.  But why the uterus?  The uterus has a long and unhappy history of being thought of as evil, as being the area of the woman's body that causes sickness, mental instability and craziness.

But what about Hysteria?  What makes this illness so special?  There were a lot of mental and physical disorders that were attributed to Hysteria, all of which eventually were found to be caused by real problems.  Doctors loved Hysteria as it was pretty much a catch-all for all unknown illnesses.

During the mid to late 1800's, a time when Hysteria was at its peak, many doctors noted a trend in women who suffered from this illness.  Many of those women turned out to be virgins, nuns, widows and even some housewives.  But what is it that connects all these women?

No sex, and no sex led to a severe shortage of "hysterical paroxysm", what we now know as an orgasm.

But because of the fact that masturbation was an unclean and generally horrible act, women had to seek professional help to treat and prevent Hysteria.  Doctors would usually treat women with a manual pelvic massage, thus inducing hysterical paroxysm.

But there was one problem with this method of treatment, sometimes it could take hours to achieve the desired result. And with such a long treatment time doctors were unable to treat many patients in a day, creating a lack of income.  One way doctors tried to speed things along in the mid to late 1800's was through the use of water hoses, creating a water massage.

But technology being such a wondrous thing found a way to help those poor doctors.  In 1873 a new product was used in an asylum in France, this product was then known as an electromechanical vibrator.  Vibrators could do in just a few minutes the same thing the doctor took hours to do manually.

Around the early 1900's many people started getting electricity in their houses.  This allowed women to treat themselves in the safety and privacy of their very own homes.  Vibrators started to become much more common around the country.  Sears printed an ad in one of their catalogues in 1918 where the touted their vibrator as being ”Very useful and satisfactory for home service.”

And so vibrators became much more common place, women could use vibrators at home, which was not masturbating, since it was all in the name of keeping them healthy and sane.

These days women would have a tough time convincing anybody they have Hysteria so they need to keep their vibrators such as bullet vibrators around.  But thankfully they don't have to.

The History and the Future of Lingerie

The History and the Future of Lingerie

The garments that we know today as lingerie are relatively new arrivals in the garment industry. A women’s undergarments had always been large, unattractive and used as a mere functional piece rather than something to complement her form, however, around the middle of the twentieth century that all began to change.

During the 1960’s women’s undergarments started to change in design and become more feminine. The new garments were much smaller and delicate looking than their former counter parts, such as the girdle or large bulky fitting bras. There was a distinctly feminine look to underwear now, which was in stark contrast with the utilitarian garments that women had thus far been forced to use.

These days, attractive lingerie is almost seen as the standard in women’s undergarments. Although most women have some "everyday" undergarments and some more attractive "special occasion" lingerie, even the everyday undergarments are much more visually appealing than those of 50 years ago.

How Should We Define Lingerie?

Lingerie is very common today and at times it can be hard to tell the difference between it and some of the everyday undergarments. They can appear so close in resemblance some people find it hard to determine which are lingerie items and those that are just regular everyday undergarments.

Generally lingerie garments are fancier in appearance, made from more refined, expensive materials that are femininely decorated and can be worn as a functional piece as well. In fact, they are often more decorative than they are functional.

The everyday underwear for women will often be made of cotton and have wider, more comfortable waistbands. These features make everyday underwear more comfortable and practical for frequent use than that of lingerie, although daily underwear can still be very attractive.

What has Lingerie Done for Womankind?

Many people will agree that the invention of lingerie has helped more women be comfortable with feeling sexy and attractive. The time has past for wearing huge cotton panties and enormous bras and women can look and feel feminine at all times by the choice of undergarments they wear, no matter what outfit they are wearing on the outside.

Women who were at one time were embarrassed of their figure can now purchase push-up bras or even panties with padded bottoms to help them have a more smooth looking appearance.

Does Today’s Underwear have a Future?

There are people in the fashion industry that believe that somewhere in the near future undergarments will move even more to the outside of the garments, verses remaining on the inside of them. The change has been coming about for some time now and over the past few years; women have been letting their bra straps show while wearing tank tops, something that was completely unheard of in the past.

One must ask, if in the future will lingerie take the place of the current conservative underwear pieces? In Europe this new phase has already begun and women tend to shop for sexy lingerie items to complement an outfit, rather then just wear it as an undergarment.

Spicing Up Your Sex Life

One things that is good about holidays is that it can bring the family together.This is also a moment when a couple is capable of coming closer to each other in the intimate side of the house.Why not a better time toward exploring your sexual interest.  You can even get into the holiday spirit by dressing for the holiday, in themed lingerie or costume to spice up the mood and make things more fun and interesting. 

Sex toys a way used for people to discover their intimate side together. They can be use with your self alone otherwise with your partner to spice up the sexual relationship.Adult toys have all different shapes and sizes and lot of different uses.  One thing that they all have in common is to increase your pleasure during the love making process.  It can be easy to shop for one of these toys that you intend to use by yourself.  However, if you are buying for your partner, if you have never bought one, then maybe you might want to bring them along for the purchase.You don’t wish to find something that will fright them away or might be even upset them.

A type of erotic method that can spice up a couple’s sex life is oil and lotion.There are many types that you can choose from.It is good for relaxation and be able to be utilized to put you in the mood for intimacy.These lotions and oil move toward different fragrances and some of it are safe for use.  These types come in many different flavors.Even you are picky; there are oils and lotions just for you.

Every time you do attempt out these things, keep in mind to get it slow and listen to your partner.As a tool for you and your partner to discover the sensual and sexual side of your lives are these toys and oils which can be apply.They can take you closer with each other.  By using anal toys, you can find out exactly what your partner wants and what you can do to drive them completely insane with pleasure.This should be looked at a mode toward going beyond normal limits in a managed environment.Mime your best desired fantasies all by means of some help.  All of these items can be found in a local adult store or at any of the varying adult sex shops online.If it is your first time and don’t know what to do, it’s better to ask.The employees will be able to bring you in the right path without making you feel bashful and unsure of yourself. 

Dirty Text Messages - Let Your Fingers Do The Talking

Just think of all the possibilities that sending a dirty text offers you.

Not only can you take your time and send a message that you've thought about, worked hard at and have fine tuned to be the height of intoxication for your lover, you can also send them a message at anytime.

Long gone are the days of accidentally interrupting them during a meeting and having your hot and erotic dirty talk cut short by a hesitant "Listen, can I call you back darling, I'm in the middle of something with the Finance Director!".

Eeek! Hope they weren't on hands free.

Now they can receive your salacious thoughts at anytime, read them discreetly and get hugely turned on - all whilst still attending a meeting with the Finance Director!

So what's the best kind of dirty text messages to send them?

Something that makes them think, that introduces an element of tease and denial.

You have here a golden opportunity to give your lover some serious teasing. Mild, sensual and erotic texts that discuss what you want them to do to you or you to them, gradually building up over a series of 4 or 5 texts that they receive during the course of the day will leaving them panting with desire, watching the clock tick down to home time.

Blatant texts, although hugely enjoyable to receive don't last as long or have anywhere near the tease factor that gentle, mildly erotic texts do.

Break them in gently - start by sending them a simple message that says something along the lines of "Really miss you baby, thinking about you and being able to kiss and cuddle you" is nice, gentle and starts the ball rolling slowly.

You can then start to build up the lust factor by encouraging their participation.

"If you were here now, what would you like us to do?"

Hopefully, he'll come back with something along the lines describing what he wants to do to you exactly.

Follow his lead, take his suggestions and enlarge them. Use your knowledge of you and him together, the things you like to do and how you like to do them and text that back to him.

Remember, build it all up slowly - don't go sending him a first message that basically tells him to come home and grab you!

You need to time your messaging so that he can get more and more worked up, culminating in you sending a text just before he is due to leave work that extols him to come home and ravish you! If you are at work too, send him a final text that dares him to get home before you and prepare the bed or sofa or whatever you intend to use!

Use your dirty text messages as a slow burn method of talking dirty, not a quick bang and you should reap the same by return!!

If you have trouble thinking of something to text or don't know how to start, check out the sample dirty text messages you can find at http://www.howtotalkdirty.info

Sexual Moan Sounds for HOT Sex

The best way to really hot up sex is to just open your mouth and let your turn on moan sex and sexual sounds flow. This does sound easy, but for many of us we have some blocks in doing this.

Due to some embarrassment or sexual shame, most of us do not fully express our energy during sex with Sex and Sexual Moan Sounds.

For men, this blocks the energy in the pelvic region. The energy has only one way to go, out! This causes a lot of men to come too soon and for sex to lack a deeper emotional and heart connection.

So, opening up to sexual sounds allows the throat chakra to open and the energy to move throughout the body,

Most men really love a women that expresses their energy with sexual  and sex moan sounds.

However, most men are mute. Women hate a mute man as much as men hate a mute woman.

Women love to hear their man’s energy as most women are very sensitive to energy.

Guys, WAKE UP and become a MAN that expresses your sexual energy fully.

So the sexual energy is in the sound, so let it fill the room and your lover will respond too.

It can be a real challenge to open up to being more in your sexual sounds during lovemaking. Encourage your partner to be more vocal and then see how the energy flows and how sex can become more powerful.

Feel into what blocks you restricting your erotic potential. The emotional freedom technique can be of help to remove this sexual block.

You can use sexual and sex sounds to transfer energy from one person to another. One can breath in when the other expresses their energy with sounds. AAhhh is a good sound to try in this tantric practice. Set an intention to feel your partners energy. Men can become multi orgasmic from this practice.

I cover more explicit practices in Sexual Ecstasy In 14 Days

Maurice Tate is a qualified sexologist trained at the Advanced Institute of Sexology. To improve your lovemaking go to Free Sexuality Tips for u and to have prostate orgasms, visit prostate massage guide

Great sex is your birthright!

Top Tips On How To Talk Dirty

Every one can use a few tips for increasing excitement in their sex lives. However exotic, satisfying and loving it is, exploring new boundaries with each other is one of the best ways of making your relationship even stronger.

In this piece we'll focus on tips on how to talk dirty, to ratchet up the sexual tension with your bed mate.

Remember, whilst talking dirty is an incredibly arousing way to add to a sexual relationship, try to keep things light and comfortable for the both of you.

Tip One: Don't Compete.

Talking dirty with your partner isn't meant to be a competition on who can say the raunchiest words.

Just because cursing is how one person likes to talk dirty, that doesn't mean it's the right way to go for you. If you are shy, you may be less than comfortable spouting off the type of dirty talk you only ever generally hear in a porn film. This is totally unnecessary, especial if it is not you style.

You may be more of the subtle suggestion type, offering up a soft moan here and there, and whispering how much your lover pleases you.

Tip Two: Consideration

Just as much as you must be comfortable, so must your partner be. If you know that four letter words turn your partner off, then don't use them. Have a talk with your partner and find out what appeals to both of you, so that you both enjoy yourselves and neither one of you inadvertently kills the mood by making one another uncomfortable.

Tip Three: Let Loose Girl

Allow yourself to enjoy the moment. If you guy does something amazing to your body and you feel the urge to scream with joy, do it! Men love it when a woman let's loose, and they especially love it when they think you can't control yourself and it's all their doing. Oh, and FYI... women are exactly the same way. They feel a certain triumph when their man loses control because of something that they did to him.

Don't be afraid to show your enjoyment of something.

Tip Four: You Are You So Stay That Way

Be natural. Relax and let the dirty dialog flow where it may. Don't try to force yourself to say certain things, or say them a certain way. It will only come out sounding forced and unnatural, and make you both feel weird in the moment.

Just relax, enjoy the sensations and let them guide your talking dirty.

Tip Five: Be Bilingual Baby!

Another great tip on how to talk dirty is to utter those dirty words in another language. If you are uncomfortable saying something in your native tongue, try saying it in Spanish, or French, and see how it sounds. In many cases this can help you overcome the discomfort, as the words don't seem quite so dirty when spoken in a foreign language.

This also adds an extra element of intrigue and mystery for your partner and can make the whole experience feel “more exotic”.

Tip Six: Just Enjoy It

Finally, just let loose and have fun.

Talking dirty isn't rocket science, and relationships are meant to be explored and enjoyed. Dirty talking is just a nice complement to an already exciting relationship, and can open up many new doors for the both of you.

How To Do A Tantra Massage On A Man

Learn some suggestions for how to give an tantra massage for men.

The best advice I like to suggest is to a slow and relaxed touch in performing tantra massage for men. Most us touch too quick and many men do not feel this erotic .

Start with a gentle touch to start and start tantra massage for men. Can you just touch the hairs of her skin. Many guys also like a very soft touch and find it very sensual.

One can start with tantra massage for men with touching with silk. I also use some fur to stimulate my lovers body. Its a good suggestion to do a stimulating bum massage and pay attention to the buttocks as most guys hold tightness in this area.

I use soft tapping on the sacrum area can be very orgasmic. Teasing is a great way to start to massage the genitals.

Do some long moves up the legs and over the genitals and up to the head. A erotic massage over the anal area can be sexy for many guys.

Remember that you should use a lot of oil on the total body and vulva during the sensual massage.

Stimulate the genitals and massage other areas and be really teasing and come back for more teasing. Try blowing up the legs, over the gential region and up to the tits. Don't bow into the pussy.

Try opening the bottom and blowing. Try licking on the big toes. This can be very erotic.

Ask your lady to breathe stronger than normal. This can be good for building the energy.

Now your lover is most likely wanting some more private massage in downtown Los Angles.

See my male g spot massage guide and male g spot diagram to discover how to make orgasmic in giving an sensual massage tonight. More on tantra massage for men

Enjoy your next massage

How to Pick a Vibrator

If you are looking to acquire a rabbit vibrator, then you have a lot of options before you.There are several vibrators to desire from by a huge selection in each category.No matter what you’re searching for, there is something for you regardless of your first choice that you can be assured. 

The first types are starter vibrators. These are for the beginners.it is important that you begin out little and go away from there.  If you go too big or too exotic, you might ruin your experience and be turned off to the idea of vibrators. 

Classic vibrators are generally straight shaped with a gradual tip at the end.On the bottom of the vibrator, is a rotate way control to regulate the speed of the vibrator.The idea is when you use inside going outside.This new release of vibrators which is smaller in size compare to those vibrators available on market today.They formulate great beginners and are simply concealed for your ease and privacy.   

Subsequently there are clitoral vibrators.  These are normally small and are used solely for the clitoris.They have to detained in place and are great when moved around the clitoris for utmost stimulus.

Butterfly vibrators are for those who enjoy the hands free approach.  These types of vibrators come with a harness that will allow for you to keep your hands free.
The rabbit vibrator is one of the most popular and interesting vibrators on the market today.They have been using for over a decade and continuously develop as years goes by.The vibrator rabbit has a pleasurable feeling of massaging internal vaginal walls while clitoris is stimulating.  These come in all sizes and range with many different speeds.Internal Stimulator is carefully made of phallus shaped vibrator that has internal rings.  These rings are lined with pearls or metal balls.  These different rings rotate in either one or both directions.  These balls inside the ring pulse and bulge as they go around the shaft, creating a throbbing sensation that will make you never want to stop.

Remote control vibrators are an excellent way to enthrall your partner with the power or your pleasure.You can use these vibrators effectively up to range of 7.five meters and twenty one feet.  This type of vibrator is for the adventurous couple or person. 

Adult Toys G-Spot vibrators designed to have angular tip to easily reach G-Spot of women.The G-Spot placed over the pelvic bone and is not easy to get to.These special sex toy rabbit vibrator allow you to a particular point to reach every time you try to use it. 

In addition to all the foregoing is the strap on vibrators.These are enjoyable to use by female couples, as well as by heterosexual couples.These vibrators have a control that allows a person to wear the vibrator as but it were close to them. 
Some vibrators be presently stupid.Some are destined as gag gifts and some are just meant for enjoyment. 
They have different features and sizes but common fact that they exist to work for your pleasure.Anyhow of what they may resemble.

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